Here is another BE MARRY post by our expert Kristen Simpson-Chandler MA, LPC. I am starting to really like these posts. I think it is so important to bring up these topics. Getting married is more than the flowers and the dress.
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Ahh, you are in love! Premarital counseling is something many couples take part in before walking down the aisle. However, as many couples are marrying in non-traditional manners, many are missing this critical step in the wedding process. Don’t get me wrong, I love all of the non-traditional weddings these days! However, many brides and grooms are not addressing the issues below and can lead to problems down the road. Take a look, and have a discussion with your fiancée. If you have not discussed all the topics, take some time to do so. We want wedded bliss for you now….. and later!
Here are a few topics to consider discussing with your honey before your big day!
*Money: How do you save? How much do we have saved up for a rainy day? What happens if one of you loses your job? Are we spenders or savers? Should we have joint or separate accounts?
*Children: Do you want children? How many and when? Are you open to adoption/fertility treatments? Would someone stay home with the children or return to work?
*Household: Who will take care of different chores around the house? How do you see each other fitting into one household?
*Intimacy: How important is this to your relationship? What needs to each of you have?
*Careers: How many hours do we work a week? If one gets a job offer in another state, how would you address it? Are both of you satisfied in current positions or looking for a change or more education?
*Religion/Spirituality: How do you want this as part of your life? How do you want to raise children in a spiritual household?
*In-laws: How do we split holidays? How do they fit into our lives? Do we have good boundaries with both families?
Most importantly, remember to enjoy yourself and keep in mind that the wedding is about a celebration of your love! If you want more information on premarital counseling, or comments about the article, let us know. You may email at bemarry@couturecolorado.com or talk to Kristen directly at 720.937.8804
Be Marry!
Kristen
I personally wish we would have had the conversation about the household chores. Some how, I am mowing the lawn every week. How did I let this happen????? I guess I can’t complain my hubby cleans the dishes and does his own laundry. And sometimes cooks.
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